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Dealing With Guilt

There are things in the past in almost all of our lives that we wish never happened or things that we wish we never had done; things that we would like to change and re-write if we had a chance to go back to our past. There are many things that leave a hurt, a wound or an unpleasant memory inside our hearts and minds that keeps coming back to haunt us as if it had just happened yesterday. Some things that leave a bad memory could be our own doing – wrongdoing, failures, wrong decisions - while some other things could be someone else’s doing – abuse, insults, hurts; but either way it leaves a trail of guilt, shame and a sense of defeat. And thinking of those events might leave us sad and depressed. It might also cause us to live in unforgiveness: towards ourselves, towards others or towards both.


Many times such events in the past keep us from going forward in life and even if we do go forward it becomes like a heavy weight that we carry around that hinders us from living life freely.

The Bile says in Hebrews 12 :1-2,

‘… So. then, let us rid ourselves of everything that gets in the way, and of the sin which holds on to us so tightly, and let us run with determination the race that lies before us.2 Let us keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, on whom our faith depends from beginning to end. He did not give up because of the cross! On the contrary, because of the joy that was waiting for him, he thought nothing of the disgrace of dying on the cross, and he is now seated at the right side of God's throne.

So, the only way forward for a free life is by laying aside every weight and sin that hinders us.



It is really not worth carrying the weight of our past around blaming ourselves or blaming others. There is a way out and a way forward.

If you are a person interested in living your life free, then you need to do the following. It might not be easy but with grace of God you can!

1.Understand that God loves you and wants you to live your life with joy and happiness, for His glory. God sent His only begotten Son Jesus into the world to live, die and rise from the grave on the third day that you may live life to the fullest. Jesus died on the cross to set you free from guilt, shame and needless condemnation. Jesus shed His blood from the cross that all your sins may be forgiven – no matter how grave and how many. He was wounded that you may be healed – physically and spiritually – and also of all your past hurts and sins. Jesus died and rose again because He loves you! So, offer your past, your hurts and your sins to Jesus and ask Him to heal you and set you free. Receive Him into your life and your life will be changed for ever.

2.Acknowledge that you can do nothing about the past now! Brooding about your past or continually regretting about something is not going to make you feel any better and it is certainly not going to make your present or future better. It might not be something easy to do but if make a decision and depend on God, He will supply you all the grace and strength you need to do it.

3.Decide that you will not allow the past to hinder your future. Your future is something you have control over from where you are right now. So, don’t allow your past to slow you down or destroy your future.'It is best that you
accept your humanness
and forgive yourself
and move forward'
ay, seek God, make the right choices now and your future can be a beautiful one
4.Confess your sin to God if there has been any wrongdoing from your side. The Bible says in 1 John 1:9,

‘But if we confess our sins to God, he will keep his promise and do what is right: he will forgive us   our sins and purify us from all our wrongdoing.’

Jeremiah 3:13 says,

     ‘Only admit that you are guilty and that you have rebelled against the Lord, your       God’.

Avoiding the guilt of your sin, pretending that you did nothing wrong, giving       excuses for your sin or blaming others for your wrongs will not help. The Bible says in James 4:7 that God gives grace to the humble. So, if you really want God’s help in dealing with your situation acknowledge your wrongs humbly before Him.
Receive God’s forgiveness. The Bible says that God forgives everyone repents and confesses his sin. Therefore since God extends His forgiveness towards you through Jesus, the only thing remaining now is for you to receive that which He so graciously is extending towards you. Nobody else can receive it on your behalf and nobody can do anything if you just keep regretting your past and choose not to receive God’s forgiveness. The death of Jesus on the cross is proof for us that God is willing to forgive us all our sin and willing to show us grace and mercy in spite of all our wrongdoing. All we need to do now is accept what has been done for us without doubting.

Psalm 103:12 says, ‘As far as the ast is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us.

In Isaiah 43:25 God says, ‘I will not remember your sins’

God is more than willing not only to forgive us but also to forget our sins.

6.Forgive yourself. Though many people receive God’s forgiveness they sometimes cannot forgive themselves. If you are such a person you need to understand that everyone makes mistakes and most people have a past that is better forgotten. So, it is best that you accept your humanness, forgive yourself and get on with your life with the grace and strength of God.

7.Forgive anyone else that was involved. If your past has been messed up because of somebody else, you need to remember that it is not worth being angry or upset with anyone, no matter how grave their wrong towards you. Your anger will only destroy you and keep you bound to your past. But forgiving others as Jesus forgives us releases us and truly helps us experience the love and forgiveness of God. In Mark 11:25 Jesus said,

“And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.

8.Understand that God has a wonderful future for you and that He can use your past and bring out something good from it in the future.

In Romans 8:28 the bible says,

‘And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.’

         In Jeremiah 29:11 God says,

‘For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.’


There is nothing impossible with God. He can use everything that has happened in your past to build your character, ability and even your future, if you trust Him. He will heal you and use you in the very same areas to be a blessing to others.